Three lessons for those struggling to overcome dark times
Getting your life back on track after a major crisis is never easy, but it’s perhaps even tougher when your reputation is on the line.
Carlos Legaspy, owner and CEO of Insight Securities, knows about such trials and tribulations. When he blew the whistle on a massive Ponzi scheme run by a company his firm had provided services to, the fraud’s perpetrators shifted the blame to him, and he was quickly facing accusations of negligence and fraud – accusations that set him back emotionally and professionally.
“There was intense fear, like I was looking at the end – not the end of my life but the destruction of my business, my career, and my reputation,” he said. “But pushing back against that feeling of dread was acceptance, combined with a will to fight.”
Only after years of battles and litigation – and settlements that he made grudgingly – is he finally clearing his name. Legaspy recounts his story in the book “Going for Broke: How One Of Latin America’s Largest Financial Frauds Became A Blessing In Disguise.”
He believes his experience may hold lessons for others who face hardships, no matter how different those may be from his own situation.
Those lessons include:
• The best defense is a strong offense. Regardless of the crisis a person faces, it’s important to realize that you don’t have to cower in a corner, Legaspy said. At some point, you can go on the offensive, whatever that means for your circumstances, he said.
“I’m a big rugby fan and one of the cool things about rugby, unlike, say, American football, is that if you’re on the pitch, you play both defense and offense,” he said. “I applied some of the lessons of the sport that I loved to my crisis, defending my territory while simultaneously striking back.”
• Never give up. Before his resolve was tested by his legal troubles, Legaspy faced a situation where his very life hung in the balance. He and a friend were stranded in the Cañon de Guadalupe in Mexico when their rented vehicle became stuck on a sandbar. They endured a six-hour walk out of the wilderness in 120-degree heat with limited water.
“In such moments, when faced with an impossible task or insurmountable odds, there will be part of you that is tempted to give up, give in, to stop fighting,” Legaspy said.
But he willed himself to keep going, and the memory of that day helped him later when his ability to adjust to misfortune was put to the test in his legal fight.
• There is joy even in the darkest moments. Bad times can seem overwhelming.
“In the darkest days of the crisis, I felt like Thelma and Louise in that famous climactic scene of the movie,” Legaspy said. “Boxed in, chased from all directions, with no way out except by driving off the precipice into the canyon below.”
That was clearly a mindset he didn’t want to be in, so he found pleasure and happiness where he could.
“In difficult times, one thing you can do is connect with family and friends,” he said.
Also, hours spent in a pastime, such as Legaspy’s favorite, rugby, help to take your mind off your woes and add pleasure to your life, he said.
“What I also have learned about difficult times is that I can either shut down, wither and fade away – or I can fight back,” Legaspy said. “I can accept the reality of failure and not be ashamed of it, but instead accept that every great success story is, on closer inspection, made up of many smaller failures along the way. I imagine that it is part of some divine plan that God, the universe, fate, or whatever word you prefer has for each of us.”
About Carlos Legaspy
Carlos Legaspy (www.carloslegaspy.com), the author of “Going for Broke: How One Of Latin America’s Largest Financial Frauds Became A Blessing In Disguise,” is owner and CEO of Insight Securities, a financial firm based in Illinois. He has been securities licensed in the United States since 1991. Legaspy graduated from Monterrey Institute of Technology in Monterrey, Mexico, with a bachelor’s degree in Information Systems in 1989. He is also a Certified Co-leader for Mankind Project International, leading trainings around modern masculinity, emotional intelligence and multi-cultural awareness.