The ups and downs of a new last name

Many young girls dream of the day they will put on a beautiful white dress and marry the love of their life.

Of course, as girls age to women, they realize that love isn’t how it’s portrayed in Disney movies, but it’s still something that I think everyone craves in some way or another.

One of my dreams has always been to be a wife and a mother. And I’ve already accomplished half of that goal.

On Saturday, Oct. 7, I married my high school sweetheart, Ira Sam.

Switching to a new last name is definitely going to take some getting used to.

I had gotten so used to being Ashley Arey, used to people pronouncing my last name wrong and having to spell it out for people, as many thought it might start with an E.

With the last name Sam, I don’t think I will have any of these issues, which is a blessing.

It’s a tedious process having to go everywhere and change your last name.

A name change comes with a new Social Security card, a new ID or driver’s license, having to change my name on my bank accounts, car insurance and all the other things with my maiden name.

Not to mention, it’s extremely hard cashing checks when people are already putting Ashley Sam and I’ve had little time to catch up with paperwork. But it will be all taken care of soon enough.

I’m excited for this new adventure and next chapter in my life. I know marriage has a lot of difficulties and definitely isn’t easy.

I’ve been with Ira for five years already, and it hasn’t come without its fights and challenges. But every day is worth it. I know it will only get better from here, even if things become more difficult as well.

So if you see ‘Ashley Sam’ at the top of news articles in our paper, I assure you we haven’t acquired a third Ashley. It’s still me, Ashley Arey. I’m just Mrs. Sam now.